Speak kindly to yourself. You are God's precious child. He is kind and loving, and He wants us to be kind and loving to our self as well.
Women, in particular, can be very hard on themselves. Harsh self-talk that is edifying or helpful to our sense of well-being. Be kind to yourself because, "We are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)
Be kind to yourself because, we are told, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4:32 (NIV), and there is no mention that we are excluded. That verse does not say we are to be cruel to ourselves, and not forgive ourselves.
They say that our inner voice is what we were told as babies, so let me take this important one step farther. Be kind to yourself even if others are not kind to you. What can you do to be kind to yourself? Take a hot bath, sleep in, herbal tea. Get outside in nature! Actually taking a walk with green stuff around you is scientifically shown to help stress.
If you are stressed and need to avoid that stress in your planning, this article is filled with scripture to encourage you: How to Avoid a Crazy Busy Life in 7 Easy Steps. In fact, consider this little statistical tidbit. Did you know there are 545 Bible results on rest, but only 500 verses about love? Apparently, rest is considered pretty important, too, right? That demonstrates how we should be kind to our self.
We should tell ourselves the truth, but the truth is not always negative. We all fail, of course, but our self-talk can be extremely negative when unchecked. Speak words of affirmation to yourself. Encourage yourself.
Kindness means more than just speaking kind words. It means finding a balance between our desire to achieve. While work IS important, too much of it will kill you and we need to balance rest and work. I call it the Genesis 2:2 balance. "By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work." Balance. God rests - he doesn't even NEED rest! Find balance. Plan balance for next year. 7 Point Sanity-Saving Checklist for Planning Your Homeschool Year
Thank you, Lee, for this helpful and healthful reminder! Even if we "know" the importance of positive self-talk and rest, we still need gentle reminders. Your post came when I really needed it!
I'm so glad to hear that Amy! I had scheduled this post for later, but then suddenly there was a significant number of parents that were berating themselves over the past year. I'm thankful to hear from you today!
As a widowed mom,who did not do well in school myself, homescooling 4 children I am always questioning myself even though I believe this is God's will for our family.I am very behind on many things including reading my emails but I am reading this at just the right time. Thanks.
Hi Jeanie! It's hard to homeschool in challenging situations, but we still need to be kind to our self. I'm glad this post has blessed you!